emotional triggers--learn to identify your emotional triggers and how to respond to them.

08 Mar What are Emotional Triggers and How Can You Respond?

What’s Going on When You Feel Emotionally Triggered? Maybe you’ve heard the term before, or maybe it’s a new concept to you. But one thing is certain, we all have emotional triggers. You’re having a casual conversation with a friend or family member, and suddenly—BAM! Your heart rate skyrockets, your muscles tense, and you feel overwhelmed with anger or with some other heavy emotion. It might have been a simple passing comment that threw you into this tailspin, but here you are in this unexpected emotional place, and now it’s your turn to respond or react. What you choose to do or say next often feels instinctual, as though you barely have control over your reactions. That’s because these situations send signals to your brain which release a cascade of chemicals that are known as your fight or flight hormones. Because their goal is pure survival, once released, these hormones begin...

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emotional pain

07 Mar Do You Run From Emotional Pain or Sit with It?

How Do You Deal with Emotional Pain?   The natural, subconscious human response to physical pain is to flee from the source of the pain. If you touch a hot stove you don’t have to think about what to do next; your body instinctively jerks away from the heat and removes itself from harm or danger. Much like wanting to avoid negative physical pain, over time we can also learn to avoid our emotional pain, because we are afraid of it and we feel it will harm us. Our avoidance is often instinctual and tends to be subconscious. To soothe our emotional pain, we choose coping mechanisms like busying ourselves, eating, shopping, or any of the other million things we can choose from. Unfortunately, this evasion has negative consequences. And it’s not just the extra pounds you may put on, the dent in your savings account or the pure exhaustion from overworking yourself....

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sense of belonging

20 Feb Developing a Sense of Belonging

As human beings, our need to feel like we belong is innate. In fact, it’s in our genes. Our ancestors of long ago had a fiercely tribal sense of belonging to their group because it was the difference between life or death. Groups were often homogenous in behavior and thought. To act in a way that was different from the group meant potential ostracization and therefore, no provision or protection from the group. There are a number of social and psychological benefits to this sense of belonging. An article in Psychology Today has this to say about belonging: “A sense of belonging to a greater community improves your motivation, health, and happiness.  When you see your connection to others, you know that all people struggle and have difficult times. You are not alone. There is comfort in that knowledge.” Just as a sense of belonging has benefits, conversely, a sense of...

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contentment

11 Feb Psalm 16: Contentment and the Path of Life

The 17th-century French mathematician, physicist, inventor, writer, and Catholic theologian Basiel Pascal, once said: “All men seek happiness. This is without exception. Whatever different means they employ, they all tend to this end. The cause of some going to war, and of others avoiding it, is the same desire in both, attended with different views. The will never takes the least step but to this object.” Obviously war is not an ethical or Biblical way to pursue happiness, but I find this perspective interesting nonetheless. Every move we make and action we take, even if it’s deferring happiness in the moment for a greater, future fulfillment of happiness, is somehow in an effort to satisfy our desires. And depression, which would seem like a lack of happiness altogether, is still a symptom of this desire for happiness, but a failure at finding it. In a previous blog post we discussed the Christ-centered...

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sabbath

03 Feb The Lost Art of the Sabbath

The Wisdom of the Sabbath We live in a society and a day and age where rest is all but demonized. As Author and Researcher Brene Brown lays out in her 10 Guideposts for Wholehearted Living, we need to let go of exhaustion as a status symbol, and productivity as a measure of self-worth. In their place we must cultivate rest and play. The wisdom of creation seems to have something to say about this as well: “...

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pursuit of happiness

20 Jan The Christ-Centered Pursuit of Happiness

In today’s culture, happiness is a primary goal. Everyone wants happiness. And historically, it’s woven into the very fabric of our American society: the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Perhaps you’d like to be happier this year than you were in 2018. At Agave Sozo in Chandler, we strongly support that goal. There is a subtle distinction between joy and happiness. It’s good to be both joyful and happy as a Christian, but for the sake of this discussion, we’ll focus on happiness. As believers going after happiness, it’s important that our pursuit revolves around the right things. What Do We Mean By ‘Christ-Centered Pursuit of Happiness’? A Christ-centered pursuit of happiness does not mean that your happiness revolves solely around spiritual or religious practices. Giving honor is an important part of finding God-centered happiness. In fact, everything in your life is spiritual and is deserving of...

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soul care

16 Jan 5 Soul Care Intentions to Start the New Year

The most common New Year’s intentions revolve around physical health, and specifically around working out more and losing those pesky, few extra pounds. Other goals may include fulfilling certain passions and dreams, or choosing to budget well this year. However, soul care often gets tacked at the bottom of this list, or perhaps omitted altogether. As an inner healing prayer ministry in Chandler, Az, Agave Sozo would like to suggest a few soul care intentions you can set for this coming year. 1. Make Time for Daily Prayer & Meditation At Agave Sozo, we believe the Bible not only instructs us about how to live so we can be right with God, but it also offers the clearest pathway to Shalom, or a state of peace and wholeness. So when the Bible encourages us to pray and meditate, it does so because the Divine Wisdom in these practices prove to be...

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practicing gratitude

21 Nov Practicing Gratitude In Every Season

In this season of thanksgiving and advent, being thankful is at the forefront of our minds. That’s why it’s an opportune time to cultivate the practice of gratitude. We not only see the importance of gratitude in the Bible, but we can also see it in modern cognitive research. In this blog post we’d like to delve into both the Biblical foundations and examples of thanksgiving, as well as some scientific research on practicing gratitude. What Does the Bible Say About Practicing Gratitude?   Praise the LORD. Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever. ~Psalm 106:1 A primary source of thanksgiving for the follower of Christ is the kindness and goodness of the Lord. As we meditate on God’s goodness and on the ways he has provided for us, our hearts are directed to the source of all life and can rest in a sense of...

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importance of setting boundaries

12 Nov The Importance of Setting Boundaries

We live in a day and age that is extremely fast-paced and demanding. In addition to meeting all the needs of your family and balancing your work life, you also have a social life, and you may volunteer at your local church or non-profit agency. The number of responsibilities and requirements you carry can begin to feel overwhelming, and the challenge is knowing where to draw a line for your emotional and mental health. At Agave Sozo inner healing prayer ministry (serving Gilbert, Chandler, and Mesa), we believe in the value of self-care. That means, in order to live a vibrant and abundant life, it’s absolutely and undeniably okay to acknowledge the importance of setting boundaries! Learn To Use Your "YES" Wisely If you’re a people pleaser—and many of us are—don’t feel any shame in admitting it! But the problem with always saying yes is that it’s a vicious cycle. As...

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inner healing prayer ministry

21 Oct The Freedom of Forgiveness: Cutting The Tie

If you’ve ever heard Christian teaching on forgiveness, you may have come away feeling a little confused as to why we are to forgive one another, and how we should go about it. This isn’t because the Bible is unclear; it’s because forgiveness is so tied to our woundedness, pain, and interconnectedness with humankind. And depending on the severity of the trespass, forgiveness may not seem like it’s even a possibility. At Agave Sozo, an inner healing prayer ministry serving the Phoenix Valley, we’ve seen and experienced the power of real forgiveness. Since forgiveness is such a huge topic, we’d love to cover a small slice of it in this post. Forgiveness in the Bible In the Bible, forgiveness is connected to sin. As Christians, one major motivation for the forgiveness we extend to others is based upon the forgiveness that we have received through Christ in God. When a person sins...

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