21 Oct The Freedom of Forgiveness: Cutting The Tie
If you’ve ever heard Christian teaching on forgiveness, you may have come away feeling a little confused as to why we are to forgive one another, and how we should go about it. This isn’t because the Bible is unclear; it’s because forgiveness is so tied to our woundedness, pain, and interconnectedness with humankind. And depending on the severity of the trespass, forgiveness may not seem like it’s even a possibility. At Agave Sozo, an inner healing prayer ministry serving the Phoenix Valley, we’ve seen and experienced the power of real forgiveness. Since forgiveness is such a huge topic, we’d love to cover a small slice of it in this post.
Forgiveness in the Bible
In the Bible, forgiveness is connected to sin. As Christians, one major motivation for the forgiveness we extend to others is based upon the forgiveness that we have received through Christ in God. When a person sins against us and returns in sorrow and repentance, we are called to forgive them (Luke 17: 3-4). However, the old adage to forgive and forget is a bit harder when someone has severely hurt us and is entirely unrepentant about it. This is where many of us get stuck. And it begs the question: what do we do in these circumstances?
Cutting the Tie
If you’ll allow, I find it helpful in these situations to take a different angle when approaching forgiveness. The traditional way to look at forgiveness mentioned above—forgive and you will be forgiven—can feel a little easier to do when every day, small incidents arise. The bigger transgressions, where unforgiveness is likely to loom and cling to our hearts with bitter ferocity, require different attention.
I’d like to paint a picture for you of what it might look like when someone deeply wounds us. Imagine that you’re a boat in a harbor. Most likely your vessel is anchored—or moored—to something that keeps you in one place. When a person sins against you, they attach a line to your boat. This means if you want to move about you now have to drag around another ship with you. That’s a heavy load to carry and it might make navigation quite challenging. Forgiveness then, is the means with which we have to detach this line.
Detaching on a Spiritual Level
On a spiritual level, forgiveness is a conscious choice to let God be the one who will judge in the end. As long as we refuse to let go and detach, we remain tied to another person in our souls. It’s also worth mentioning that forgiveness does not mean that you are somehow OK with the way another person has unjustly treated you. And it does not mean that you have to approach the person face to face or even tell them that you have forgiven them. In fact, in some situations, it’s wise not to have contact with that person again. Each situation will require it’s own discernment.
Until you choose to detach, bitterness and even anger are likely to consume you and result in more emotional pain and turmoil. But once you loose the tie between you and the other person, you can continue your journey of healing with the Father. Dear One, forgiveness has so much more to do with the health of your own soul and spirit than it does about the other person.
Agave Sozo – Inner Healing Prayer Ministry
If your heart is experiencing pain due to the actions or words of another person, give this approach to forgiveness a try. If the thought of releasing another person completely to God and cutting hurtful ties to them is something that does not feel like an option, call us at Agave Sozo today. Our gentle and loving sessions can help guide you to the root of your struggle and begin to set you free. Let our inner healing prayer ministry help release you and allow you to move past your pain.
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