stories we tell ourselves

The Power of the Stories We Tell Ourselves

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As humans, we are storytellers. We have a unique ability to create and imagine. This ability is what can help us turn horrible life events into a beautiful future. Through the stories we tell ourselves, we can reinterpret the past to create our present and future circumstances. 

Throughout the course of the day, we are in a constant conversation with ourselves. We may not be fully conscious that a narrative is being formed, but our brains use it to make sense of the world around us and the circumstances that are unfolding. 

Are The Stories Negative or Positive? 

Just as we can use this creative and imaginative ability to benefit our lives, we can also subconsciously use it in a way that has a negative impact on our lives. Some of these negative stories might sound like: 

  • “I can’t achieve this goal because I’ve failed too many times in the past.” 
  • “I’m this way because of my mom” 
  • “I can’t make friends because I’m shy.” 
  • “What that person did to me ruined my future.” 
  • “Our relationship is doomed because he tries not to understand me.” 

Stories like these can serve us on some level because they help us understand certain aspects of ourselves, our emotions or our circumstances. But what they all have in common is that they restrict us and we start to believe we are victims. 

That’s not to say there isn’t an element of truth in statements like these, but what if mindful awareness of our negative stories that hold us back could be transformed into something positive?

  • “Even though I’ve failed, I’m resilient and believe I can succeed.”
  • “My mother may have shaped the way I think about myself, but I don’t have to be limited by her influence on me.” 
  • “I may be shy, but I’m also smart and funny and a great friend.” 
  • “That past event or person harmed me, but I get to create the future I want.” 
  • “Maybe he wants to understand me and I can create a safe space for that to happen.” 


Choose Your Story 

While we can’t control what happens to us, we can control how we think about it. When we begin to become aware of our negative stories, we can take responsibility and reframe them in a way that can empower us. As an inner healing prayer ministry serving the greater Phoenix area, that’s exactly what we do at Agave Sozo. We help people identify their limiting or false beliefs about themselves, others and God, and we create a space where they can encounter freedom and hope. If you’re interested in learning more about our ministry, give us a call today: 480-220-4577


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